Let’s take a look back into how God defines love because I think most girls have bought the lie of “Maybe it is love, as much as it can be”. God defines love very clearly so that we aren’t left questioning whether it’s love or not. I have a feeling that if you are guessing then it’s not. I know you have heard this before but read it like God is talking to you, he has sat down with you at Starbucks and is wondering how your relationship is going. You tell him things are OK but your pretty sure it’s love. So he takes a long sip of his Latte and ask you…
“10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.”
You don’t need a boy, you need a God fearing man. I know this will take time and you will have to wait but I can promise you it is worth it. I used to believe my brothers and my dad were the only God fearing men on this earth. I believed I would never find anyone as wonderful as them. I watched how they loved their girlfriends and then wives and I was jealous. I figured I would never find a man who could love me like that. They opened the doors for them, doted on them, respected them, took them on dates, and always always placed God in the center of their relationship. I knew in high school I would never find a boy like that because I wasn’t being the woman these kind of men go for but I prayed one day I’d have the strength to be a God fearing woman, the kind God fearing men look for.
Then I met Ben. He was everything and more I had prayed for, looked for, and heard about. He met every character quality on that list but I only met him after I became God’s image of love. I met him after I loved God so deeply I became like him. Let me promise you that our love is not perfect but it’s as close as you get. We still fail each other but we have a standard that our love lives by.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
You deserve this. You were made for this. God wants you to know that he deeply desires for you to have this but if we are putting a standard on our men then we must also put it on our selves so ask yourself this.
Are you patient? Are you kind? Do you get jealous? Do you boast? Are you rude? Do you put yourself first? Do you keep a record of wrongs? Do you delight others hurting? Do you love truth and pursue it? Do you protect love? Do you trust? Do you hope in love? Do you persevere no matter the cost?
God did. He did all those things for you so that you would have the ultimate example of love because you deserve that kind of love. Don’t trade the imitation for the real thing. Don’t be penny lane and don’t buy the lie that maybe it is love. If you are wondering if it is then it’s not. I can promise you that when you have the real thing you know it is. When Ben and I feel in love it was better than any chick flick I have ever seen and it still is.